A Hate My Church at Times, A Rant by Me
Mar. 14th, 2019 10:25 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
jo_anne_stormI don't hate the Catholic faith, mind you. I think doctrine is wrong on a lot of things and needs to come into the 21st Century. And the priests need to STOP FUCKING COVERING UP AND CONDONING ABUSE OF ALL TYPES!!!
That's not want this rant is actually about. Though I have another rant in me about how abusive marriages are still considered good and faithful marriages, plus the whole sexual abuse of altar servers, seminarians, etc. And the fact that Pope Francis has reinstated bishops and priests who covered it up and were directly involved. But... That's a whole other rant.
My particular church, I do not like. The priest is a racist asshole and I know way too much about him and the politics of the church. That being said, I also can't change my parish because of family politics. And my priest is close to retirement, and I like the priest that has been brought in to replace him. Possibly I like him simply because I don't know him as well... But he's practical and knows how to cook, does serious woodworking, and was knee deep in the flooded basement with my boys as they tried to solve the water issue. Out senior priest stayed warm and dry and dithered about things getting wet.
I'm rambling.
So, I knew this was coming. And hopefully I shut it down as a... criticism at the dinner table. We have a lesbian couple who have started coming to Mass. I haven't talked to them, but I don't talk to anyone after Mass, so it would be weird for me to pop up and welcome them. They aren't being in your face with their relationship. The most I have seen is them holding hands as they come in. They usually stop before they even enter the sanctuary. No idea if they join the communion line, but the state of their souls, like the state of their relationship, is not my business.
Several people have went to Father and asked him to put a stop to it.
Before my MiL could continue, I cut in and stated that doing so would be WRONG. (My MiL goes back and forth on how supportive she is of gay and lesbian people. She will talk about her good gay friends who all died of AIDS,but then will comment that SiL's gay friend needs to find a good girl and straighten out. So, I'm never quite sure which way she is going to fall.) I couched it in terms of "if church is for people seeking redemption, then kicking people out who are seeking redemption is the opposite of what you should do." Which is true and does not get into my personal feelings that the Catholic Church is wrong about gay marriage.
Apparently Father has decided that as long as they are not shoving their relationship in anyone's face, the couple can stay. *sigh* That's probably the best I can hope for.
That's not want this rant is actually about. Though I have another rant in me about how abusive marriages are still considered good and faithful marriages, plus the whole sexual abuse of altar servers, seminarians, etc. And the fact that Pope Francis has reinstated bishops and priests who covered it up and were directly involved. But... That's a whole other rant.
My particular church, I do not like. The priest is a racist asshole and I know way too much about him and the politics of the church. That being said, I also can't change my parish because of family politics. And my priest is close to retirement, and I like the priest that has been brought in to replace him. Possibly I like him simply because I don't know him as well... But he's practical and knows how to cook, does serious woodworking, and was knee deep in the flooded basement with my boys as they tried to solve the water issue. Out senior priest stayed warm and dry and dithered about things getting wet.
I'm rambling.
So, I knew this was coming. And hopefully I shut it down as a... criticism at the dinner table. We have a lesbian couple who have started coming to Mass. I haven't talked to them, but I don't talk to anyone after Mass, so it would be weird for me to pop up and welcome them. They aren't being in your face with their relationship. The most I have seen is them holding hands as they come in. They usually stop before they even enter the sanctuary. No idea if they join the communion line, but the state of their souls, like the state of their relationship, is not my business.
Several people have went to Father and asked him to put a stop to it.
Before my MiL could continue, I cut in and stated that doing so would be WRONG. (My MiL goes back and forth on how supportive she is of gay and lesbian people. She will talk about her good gay friends who all died of AIDS,but then will comment that SiL's gay friend needs to find a good girl and straighten out. So, I'm never quite sure which way she is going to fall.) I couched it in terms of "if church is for people seeking redemption, then kicking people out who are seeking redemption is the opposite of what you should do." Which is true and does not get into my personal feelings that the Catholic Church is wrong about gay marriage.
Apparently Father has decided that as long as they are not shoving their relationship in anyone's face, the couple can stay. *sigh* That's probably the best I can hope for.
